What’s the Word Wednesday

Mar 02, 2022 in
Growth

Subject: Things I Often Regret…

As I approach 40 (well, any birthday for that matter), I’ve been doing a lot of thinking in regards to my life as a whole. I consider my past, present, and future as well as what I need to do in order to hit personal goals I’ve set for myself. With that being said, I often find myself thinking of “what ifs” as well as “so glad I made it through that”. If I’m being honest, the what ifs usually produces regret.

Here’s just a few of the things that have recently come up:

  1. While I had absolutely no control over the death of my mother, I regret that she was never able to meet my husband. I think back to the last relationship I was in prior to her death and it honestly makes me sad. I’m almost certain that her cold demeanor was based on her concern of me marrying a man that was not in a place to represent the Godly husband she desired for me to have. Heck…now that I look back I can say that he wasn’t. But when you’re in the thick of things, seeing the whole picture is not always an easy thing and I’m a lot more emotionally intelligent and mature now. Aside from the relationship aspect, she was never able to meet my children. I know the impact she had on my nephew’s life and I wanted that same thing for my girls. Even though that’s not possible, we’ve been beyond blessed to have people step into our lives and love on our children beyond our wildest dreams. 
  2. I wasted way too much time thinking of what’s next versus living in the moment and that ultimately made me miss life. Back while I was working, trying to juggle motherhood, co-leading in music ministry, and still being somewhat social, I had an extreme sense of being overwhelmed. I clearly remember daydreaming about the life I have now, but I missed so many moments back then. I didn’t go out when I probably could have pushed through and went, I didn’t know when to say no so I could stop feeling so exhausted, and I certainly didn’t attempt to find the good in each day so life could have been more endurable and enjoyable. I just went day to day existing and not living. I can’t explain how much guilt I have experienced in regards to my kids and the lack of energy I put into quality time with them when they were younger. Now that I’ve gotten that chance with the youngest (and I still struggle sometimes because she never stops talking..LOL), I realize now how many small moments I missed that I can’t get back. I am making an effort to have genuine relationships with each of the girls so they feel connected and want to share with me. 
  3. Even though I was a therapist and I knew best practices in regards to life improvement, I didn’t practice many of the things I taught. The things I chose to practice proved that working the principles made improvements, but by that time I had developed many bad habits and I still hadn’t worked on the mental aspect so that the changes were more permanent. I had way to many negative thinking filters to rid myself of. Now that I’ve done the hard work, I have started focusing more on the mental aspect than just my behaviors. I’m continually looking for thoughts that still linger around that I need to be rid of so I can really live my best life.
  4. Not being firmer with my boundaries. Relationships have always meant so much to me. Because of that, I’d allow myself to bend to the will of others even crossing over my feelings to make someone happy. Most of my life I didn’t have a grasp on Deann because I was so busy trying to make things work with someone else. Now that I’m older and wiser I recognize that someone else’s happiness is NOT my responsibility. While this has definitely ruffled the feathers of a few folks that I allowed to get way too deep and too far, I like and respect the me I’m becoming. I am still getting to know me, but I refuse to change me to be in a relationship with anyone.

I know this isn’t an area of life most people share, but what are some of your regrets?

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January 10, 2025

Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelensky will meet US President Joe Biden and Vice President Kamala Harris in Washington on Thursday. Leon Neal/Getty Images
CNN
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Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelensky’s visit to the White House on Thursday could be his final chance to convince a receptive American president of his country’s war aims.
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The precise details of the “victory plan” Zelensky plans to present in separate meetings to President Joe Biden and Vice President Kamala Harris are unknown, having been closely held until they are presented to the American leaders.

But according to people briefed on its broad contours, the plan reflects the Ukrainian leader’s urgent appeals for more immediate help countering Russia’s invasion. Zelensky is also poised to push for long-term security guarantees that could withstand changes in American leadership ahead of what is widely expected to be a close presidential election between Harris and former President Donald Trump.

The plan, people familiar with it said, acts as Zelensky’s response to growing war weariness even among his staunchest of western allies. It will make the case that Ukraine can still win — and does not need to cede Russian-seized territory for the fighting to end — if enough assistance is rushed in.

That includes again asking permission to fire Western provided long-range weapons deeper into Russian territory, a line Biden once was loathe to cross but which he’s recently appeared more open to as he has come under growing pressure to relent.

Even if Biden decides to allow the long-range fires, it’s unclear whether the change in policy would be announced publicly.

Biden is usually apt to take his time making decisions about providing Ukraine new capabilities. But with November’s election potentially portending a major change in American approach to the war if Trump were to win, Ukrainian officials — and many American ones — believe there is little time to waste.
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Trump has claimed he will be able to “settle” the war upon taking office and has suggested he’ll end US support for Kyiv’s war effort.

“Those cities are gone, they’re gone, and we continue to give billions of dollars to a man who refused to make a deal, Zelensky. There was no deal that he could have made that wouldn’t have been better than the situation you have right now. You have a country that has been obliterated, not possible to be rebuilt,” Trump said during a campaign speech in Mint Hill, North Carolina, on Wednesday.

Comments like those have lent new weight to Thursday’s Oval Office talks, according to American and European officials, who have described an imperative to surge assistance to Ukraine while Biden is still in office.

As part of Zelensky’s visit, the US is expected to announce a major new security package, thought it will likely delay the shipping of the equipment due to inventory shortages, CNN previously reported according to two US officials. On Wednesday, the US announced a package of $375 million.

The president previewed Zelensky’s visit to the White House a day beforehand, declaring on the margins of the United Nations General Assembly his administration was “determined to ensure that Ukraine has what it needs to prevail in fight for survival.”
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“Tomorrow, I will announce a series of actions to accelerate support for Ukraine’s military – but we know Ukraine’s future victory is about more than what happens on the battlefield, it’s also about what Ukrainians do make the most of a free and independent future, which so many have sacrificed so much for,” he said.

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January 10, 2025

Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelensky will meet US President Joe Biden and Vice President Kamala Harris in Washington on Thursday. Leon Neal/Getty Images
CNN
—
Ukrainian President Volodymyr Zelensky’s visit to the White House on Thursday could be his final chance to convince a receptive American president of his country’s war aims.
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The precise details of the “victory plan” Zelensky plans to present in separate meetings to President Joe Biden and Vice President Kamala Harris are unknown, having been closely held until they are presented to the American leaders.

But according to people briefed on its broad contours, the plan reflects the Ukrainian leader’s urgent appeals for more immediate help countering Russia’s invasion. Zelensky is also poised to push for long-term security guarantees that could withstand changes in American leadership ahead of what is widely expected to be a close presidential election between Harris and former President Donald Trump.

The plan, people familiar with it said, acts as Zelensky’s response to growing war weariness even among his staunchest of western allies. It will make the case that Ukraine can still win — and does not need to cede Russian-seized territory for the fighting to end — if enough assistance is rushed in.

That includes again asking permission to fire Western provided long-range weapons deeper into Russian territory, a line Biden once was loathe to cross but which he’s recently appeared more open to as he has come under growing pressure to relent.

Even if Biden decides to allow the long-range fires, it’s unclear whether the change in policy would be announced publicly.

Biden is usually apt to take his time making decisions about providing Ukraine new capabilities. But with November’s election potentially portending a major change in American approach to the war if Trump were to win, Ukrainian officials — and many American ones — believe there is little time to waste.
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Trump has claimed he will be able to “settle” the war upon taking office and has suggested he’ll end US support for Kyiv’s war effort.

“Those cities are gone, they’re gone, and we continue to give billions of dollars to a man who refused to make a deal, Zelensky. There was no deal that he could have made that wouldn’t have been better than the situation you have right now. You have a country that has been obliterated, not possible to be rebuilt,” Trump said during a campaign speech in Mint Hill, North Carolina, on Wednesday.

Comments like those have lent new weight to Thursday’s Oval Office talks, according to American and European officials, who have described an imperative to surge assistance to Ukraine while Biden is still in office.

As part of Zelensky’s visit, the US is expected to announce a major new security package, thought it will likely delay the shipping of the equipment due to inventory shortages, CNN previously reported according to two US officials. On Wednesday, the US announced a package of $375 million.

The president previewed Zelensky’s visit to the White House a day beforehand, declaring on the margins of the United Nations General Assembly his administration was “determined to ensure that Ukraine has what it needs to prevail in fight for survival.”
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“Tomorrow, I will announce a series of actions to accelerate support for Ukraine’s military – but we know Ukraine’s future victory is about more than what happens on the battlefield, it’s also about what Ukrainians do make the most of a free and independent future, which so many have sacrificed so much for,” he said.

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